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Even with the fear of Covid, economic meltdown, Brexit shenanigans, and Boris we can still get a car through Motability. The disabled of many of our parent’s generation lived through one or two world wars either trapped in city flats or isolated in the country, with the constant threat of bombing. This not so distant past makes ambient lighting, tinted windows, brand reassurance seems so immaterial doesn’t it.
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It reminds me of the cardboard box monty python sketch and Uncle Albert on only fools and horses. ?
My body has made me have to give up driving and keeps me largely house bound so I certainly don’t feel fortunate, but not a lot offends me life’s too short.
Cardboard box you were lucky every morning we used to get up 2 hours before we went to bed and lick road clean with our tongues !
I too think Matt B got it spot on. I also agree that the original post could have been phrased differently but the sentiment was about right.
Good to see a bit of humour creeping into this thread.
So very sorry to read of your tragic loss Rox. Nothing more painful than a parent saying goodbye to their child.
Thx, Yep and Life ain’t dealt me great cards and none of us are in control of the card we dealt in life, but it has totally changed my perspective of life. It’s better to of had something and lost it, to never of had it at all..
To have those priceless memories and that time is the most important thing we have. We can wollow in our own self pity of how bad our life is, but then there always someone who’s got it worse than you have.
There a Guy in the lost child group i’m in, he lost his middle kid in 2018 and last month his eldest now 19 took his own life as he could not cope with it all, I also have 2 other kids and it’s so hard on them too.
Disability forums is somewhere one has to trod so lightly.
A year after having the Stroke that left me disabled I joined a forum that’s moderated by “Scope” who are just one of the many advice sites we see today for disabled folk like us.
Having been a victim I thought I had all the answers and could help others that have suddenly found themselves or found loved ones disabled. However I soon realised that no two cases are the same and the minefield of getting help is truly a minefield and one wrong step and your blown to pieces or to put it in a less violent way, your an emotional wreck and I just didn’t have the courage to give others advice because not only could it upset the person I’m giving advice to but also having to live through it myself it upsets me too and even now 12 years later I find it very hard to read others stories about Stroke no matter give advice so I say nothing.
That doesn’t help anyone I know but I can’t bear the thought that what I say can cause distress to others but its so easy to say something that does even though you may think it doesn’t.
I am guilty of not keeping my counsel, no matter how many times I say to myself, ‘say what needs to be heard, not what needs to be said’, I break the rule. In another life I was a counsellor and a hypnotherapist as well as an NLP practitioner. The most important things I learnt is that people rarely want advice. They want confirmation that they are right and it’s best to always repeat and reflect, anyone unaware of the technique can look it up, then people can take what they want. It reduces conversation and responses down to mechanics, but frighteningly…it works.
we all have lots of ups and downs along the way and we all think our worst days are worse then yours could be.
The problem is it’s hard to give advice without sharing your own problems or sounding like you think you have all the answers.
I always get people telling me I should try this therapy or exercise because Fred’s dogs mum said it really works and then it becomes awkward when you or somebody else disagrees.
That’s the way of the world we live in, those trying to help others often become targets for some people to vent their anger towards for whatever reason, that reason don’t matter but it’s not cool.
As those which may benefit don’t then get some sound advice which may help them. Sometimes things might not apply to someone but why do they take it to heart reading into to it, bad intensions always.
It’s like is the glass half empty or half full and look it can be both. But it’s a sad world when you cannot talk freely without offending someone. That Imo is their issue and their loss, they might not see it that way and I will get some h8 for this view and other’s i have had on this forum before and will have in the future.
You cannot please all the people all of the time. but should you stop trying to reachout to those that want to be reached out to. Nope i don’t believe you should.
I find the same on other platforms, people say watch a video then leave negative hateful comments and i think why did they watch it all in the 1st place, they could just press stop and watch another more intresting video to them, but on no, they need to comment negative stuff.. As doing so makes them feel better in a sad twisted way and it’s all types of people that are that way these days.
It’s almost as if they are being conditioned to respond that way. As i said i have a brain injury and all i spk is what i feel is the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.. Nothing i ever say is intened personally, If it was I’d say so. Normally it’s to help someone, as others have help me.
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