I went over every year of my first 3 year lease and for the first two years on my second. First lease, a Grand Picasso, went back at 72k miles, I was expecting a bill, but nothing ever came. The handover was delayed 3 months, so they could have added a bit of mileage for that and that may have saved me a few £’s.
Next lease was an S-Max, was also over for the first 2 years, but then Covid had me working from home, so mileage for year 3 plummeted & it went back just under 50k miles.
Never contacted during either lease, and they must have known on the Picasso as I had 10 tyres (2 to punctures) and a lot of services as they were 10,000 mile intervals. Only 4 tyres for the S-Max & two services.
This was 2015-21 though, so they may have changed their policy since then…
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