Maybe you need to shield every winter and only comeout in the summer when uv levels are higher and seasonal bugs ain’t about.
My mum is 70 in march and also she has a lung condition and needs an op but they won’t do it, she gotta go for another scan in a few weeks and she has not seen her grankids this year at all.. we try not to visit when we got a cold etc as it could make her very ill and back in jan i was very ill with some virus which now could of been covid as the mrs and the youngest had a bad cough and had to go to the docs after it didn’t go away. it was late feb till we was all feeling any better and we was going to visit her at easter but lockdown came.
I do think she won’t get to see them again in the flesh.
So tharg i do get it, but also in 2017 my 16 year old son died suddenly, in his room at home during the day where you would think he’d be safe.. In covid’s eyes i’d be not letting my other 2 kids go to their rooms at all or out of our sights just incase they drop down dead. I think for eveyone it’s different but it has given me a different view of how life is and how we are not in control and cannot stop stuff happening. death happens to us all at some point and i am not scared as i know there was nothing anyone could of done to save my son.