Around town driving – a hybrid may be your best bet, but none around at the size you are after. Diesel is best on long steady state journeys and not so good around town, but, given you don’t need serious power for town driving then the 1.5/1.6 diesels are the ones to go for: Grand Picasso, Touran, Grand C-Max for std MPV’s and the Rifter, Berlingo, Tourneo for van derived MPV’s, drive both, you may prefer one type over another. Look at the 5008 too, its not really an SUV, the rear end and interior fit out is nearly identical to the Grand Picasso, just not as high a roofline and less room for seats 6 and 7.
Basically you’d see between 5-10mpg better overall for the drop from 2.0 to 1.5 without any real performance issue given your town driving. They aren’t that bad out of town either, and despite being slightly slower to 70, will give well into the 50’s mpg on a run.
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