It is a quandry to be fair, I’d rule out any you have already had any issues with in getting in or out (passenger also). You clearly need heated seats and steering wheel, they help with the spinal issue and arthritic hands, so scrap any without those (unless you are prepared to add them as extras – thinking of the Enyaq and its expensive packs). That narrows it down a little.
Other things are, as you point out, toys, useful at times but not really necessary so they can be pretty much ignored, just go see and try the cars on your shortlist and pick the one that most appeals to you from comfort/driving/ease of entry and be happy till next time.
I would not necessarily discount a smaller battery car, 63kw vs 77 is not actually that much difference, especially as the Nissans charge curve means you can take it to 98-99% (58kw) easily on a long run. A 70kw Mach-E battery charges so slowly after 85% (59-60kw) you would probably unplug and set off again – so only a 1-2kw difference in real life, except you were already long gone in the Nissan as it charges faster overall (see Bjorn Nylands charging videos…).
Then again the Niro EV has a 475 ltr boot, Ariya is 466. The Niro EV 4 has all the toys, bar the heat pump and a £3999 AP. It’s not as flash looking or as big overall, so there is that.
I go through the same thing, toys vs needs vs AP and swither between the Niro, 63 Evolve, Mach-E, EV6 and the Ioniq 5. The Enyaq is out, EV’s need heated seats and wheel to save on cabin heat and adding very expensive packs on top of AP is silly, have an accident or need to change your vehicle and you will not see that money back. I’ve tried the ID.4/5 and hate the minimal interior and very crazy touch “buttons” so they are out. Q4 is too poverty spec for the price.
Finally, I keep thinking I should have a last dinosaur hurrah and keep being drawn to the Mazda CX-60, the electric only range would suit most of my local journeys and the petrol the longer ones. Very well specced in Homura trim with the added pack and at 327hp it’s interesting.
See, most of us are no better at choosing – and I still have a year to go on my current lease!
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