Mrs a to b was also my carer and still is but she’s gone back into work (albeit from home) and now get’s nothing at all for all the care she still provides me. As many do who work and also are carers and some who look after their ageing parents for example rather than ditching them in a home are all taken for a huge ride.
And the fact that if an unpaid carer works 3hrs a day for 5 days at minimum wage they loose their entitlement to carer allowance. As well someone on certain benifits loooses the amount equall to carers allowance from their benifits, so the carer can be paid. The system is wrong in this country given carers save the government so much money.
lets not even mention the care homes, who just recently didn’t even inform her family / sister that her mum was admitted to hospital days ago and had some sort of stroke aagain, they think, but don’t even know? or did she have another fall like last time. that they didn’t tell anyone and tried to hide the fact. This is even while she’s being accessed for her care and who will pay for it and a social worker is envolved as she was in hospital but couldn’t go home, they wouldn’t allow it. Guess what they didn’t even inform the social worker either and they in big trouble now.
Ive witnessed first hand what a care home would be like for my daughter, by how she is treated in school and looked after in school. She comes home stinking of urine and toilet paper stuck in her bum along with poo where she has not been wiped properly, clothes on back to front etc etc. As a grown man I cry more now than I ever have in my life because of how she is treated. You tell them it falls on deaths ears. If you take matters higher she will likely be treated worse. Then there are programs you see of care homes on tv and what mt grandad went through.
Like you I won’t go into a care home, nor would I want my daughter after are days, nor does it bare thinking about what goes through ones mind to prevent my daughter going through it.
I hope mum is OK 🙂