Sorry to hear that you are having yet more problems Shellie. In reality, I think that your total lead time will be the norm for most people. The dates that you had been given seemed optimistic to me, based on what my dealer had told me. I only managed to get our X1 in 4 months (ordered end March, delivery end July) because the dealer nabbed a cancelled order from another dealership that wasn’t even in their group. Perhaps your dealer did this for your friend as colour choice obviously makes no difference to lead times.
In spite of getting this cancelled order, our predicted delivery was pushed back from end July to end September, but my dealer contacted BMW Production Operations (or something like that) who agreed to reinstate the build slot to ensure end July delivery. From my experience, it seems that good dealers can influence the build date, so it might be worth asking if they can do this for you, especially if you cite your friends lead time.