Martin I’ve only just read this dreadful news, and my heart goes out to you and your family. There is nothing anyone can say to ease the pain you feel right now, so I can only offer this – the next few weeks are for getting through as best you can. Certain things must be done, accept any help offered and remember you and the kids are still a family who love each other. All seems very dark just now, but believe me when I say that there will come a time when all the good memories overcome the sorrow. Thirty two years does not just disappear, hold onto them and you and the family will find a way to carry on together. I wish you well.