Thanks AJN & Gee 🙂
18 years ago I was much more able to look after him, even now he’s in his own place I’m still there 3 or 4 times a week. He can get a few bits locally, there are some larger shops in Durham within 15-20mins walking distance but with his Autism a walk to the shops and back isn’t always either easy or even possible some days.
I’m there again picking him up tonight, I’m in Durham a couple of nights a week as I help run a local shooting club, the plan is for him to come back here tonight as we’re out at 6:30am tomorrow so he can go target shooting, something he’s quite good at and really enjoys.  Unfortunately there’s no way for him to get there on his own as it’s in the middle of nowhere!, so a 120 mile round trip for me. After that we’re back here for the night while I do his washing etc. Then out for lunch at his favourite cafe on Wednesday followed by a large shop at a couple of supermarkets then take him back home.
I’ll be there again Thursday evening after being at the club to check he’s ok and maybe get a takeaway in for us. As they say rinse and repeat again next week!.
My worry (as it’s been for the last 18 years) is what happens to him after I’ve gone?, he can’t cope with sorting out changes to his rent, benefits etc. on his own and probably wouldn’t ask anyone for help if I’m not here.
Please excuse spelling/typos. Apart from being a clot it turns out I had one on my cerebellum that's now causing various problems!