Zelda it is clear you are the type of woman who, by your own admission, doesnt mind a bit of attention, maybe even enjoys or even courts the attention “I’ve pubbed and clubbed for a lot of years and if I was to sit here and list every time i’d been hugged, cuddled, squeezed, had my bum nipped, been chatted up, been wolf whistled at, etc., i’d be here til Christmas!”. And that is fine your view of sexual harrasment will obviously differ from others.
Sexual harassment is unwanted behaviour of a sexual nature which:
violates your dignity
makes you feel intimidated, degraded or humiliated
creates a hostile or offensive environment
You don’t need to have previously objected to someone’s behaviour for it to be considered unwanted.
Its clear you dont find BJ actions offensive but there are many people out there who do, me included.
Thankfully the law is at hand to deal with this kind of situation as it is not resonable to judge other people by your own standards wether that be yours mine or anyone elses.
Unfortunately your attitude encourages people to cross the line in these situations, as what you find acceptable others will not, but those who hugged, cuddled, squeezed, nipped your bum, and chatted you up and got away with it think its ok to do it so they will do it to others, and its not.