I personally think that for standard non adapted cars that there is a bountiful Some of your points I agree with however I believe you are being a bit harsh and insensitive, unfortunately there has to be a cut off point, unfortunately not in their favour, not everyone understands the system, if they did they would not post asking for advice. Have you considered a Mazda CX-5 large SUV, plenty of room for a hoist automatic transmission.
I considered the Mazda CX-5, but again the one with electric tailgate was more than the grant allowed, and part of my grant was to include an electric tailgate.