Jay N, would it be possible to have a few refresher lessons with a driving instructor as you’re back on the road after the long break off it…
The advice above from Glos Guy again seems the best route, if it were just a mirror casting, or a cracked rear light fair enough, but you description sounds quite bad..
Any chance of any pics, no problem if you feel you don’t want too, it just might be easier to advise..
Dont feel to bad I guess we’ve all bumped or scraped a car at some stage, even if we don’t admit it???